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Friday, December 6, 2013

Christmas From Heaven Book and Mormon Tabernacle Choir DVD Review

We received product free from Shadow Mountain to facilitate this review.

The Christmas From Heaven book and Mormon Tabernacle Choir DVD is the heartfelt true story of a young cargo pilot by the name of Gail Halvorsen in the US Army Air Corps who was assigned to fly in much needed supplies to a war-torn, Soviet-blockaded Berlin. Not only did he do this duty, but he went far above and beyond to give some beacon of hope to the children living there as well. With his acts of kindness he became known as The Candy Bomber or Uncle Wiggly Wings and spread the joy of giving to other sympathetic Americans.

This story touched my heart and helped me get into the true spirit of Christmas. I loved the book with the wonderful illustrations and actual photographs. Tom Brokaw is a great storyteller as well as a newsman. He tells the story beautifully of "Hal's" generosity. I loved the DVD that came along with the book. The narration that Tom gives with the Mormon Tabernacle Choir singing in the background is profound. I love the portrayal of the events by the children and actual parachutes of candy falling from inside the Tabernacle. We also get to meet the Candy Bomber himself on the DVD, now 90 something years young, and wearing his uniform from when he was in service. This book and DVD is a wonderful addition to my library and I think it will become our new tradition to read and watch it every Christmas.

List Price $21.99, Hardcover. Now available on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and at select retailers nationwide.

DISCLOSURE/DISCLAIMER: I received products for free to facilitate my review. My thoughts are mine and my family's own opinion and have not been altered by anyone else. I did not receive any other compensation for doing this review.

Monday, June 24, 2013

Way Back in the Gardenia Rows: Everyday God-Moments and the Recipes that Accompany Them by Kay Wheeler Moore FWCT Book Review

It is time for a FIRST Wild Card Tour book review! If you wish to join the FIRST blog alliance, just click the button. We are a group of reviewers who tour Christian books. A Wild Card post includes a brief bio of the author and a full chapter from each book toured. The reason it is called a FIRST Wild Card Tour is that you never know if the book will be fiction, non~fiction, for young, or for old...or for somewhere in between! Enjoy your free peek into the book!

You never know when I might play a wild card on you!



Today's Wild Card author is:


and the book:

Hannibal Books (April 29, 2013)

***Special thanks to Jennifer Nelson, PR Specialist, Hannibal Books for sending me a review copy.***

ABOUT THE AUTHOR:

Kay Wheeler Moore is a Pulitzer-Prize nominee who stirred up her heirloom cornbread from "Way Back in the Country" and her tangy orange/pecan salad from "Way Back in the Country Garden" on live TV while she promoted preserving family history through recipes. Her other previous books are "When the Heart Soars Free", a book of Christian fiction, and "Gathering the Missing Pieces in an Adopted Life", based on her newspaper series when she was a Houston Chronicle reporter. She and husband, Louis, are parents of two adult children and their spouses and grandparents of three.

Visit the author's website.

SHORT BOOK DESCRIPTION:

What are the tangible moments in life when God has been so real to you, you can almost hear His heart beating? When has He provided such an unlikely solution to a dilemma, the answer had to be His doing and a result of no other source?

Pulitzer Prize nominee Kay Moore, author of "Way Back in the Country" and "Way Back in the Country Garden", collections of family recipes and the stories behind them, now inspires readers to preserve God-moments in their own lives and to capture recipes of the foods that were served accompanying those life-changing times. Using illustrations from her own experiences, she contends that God shows up in quiet, everydaylife lessons as well as in miracles that may not be of the Damascus Road scale but nonetheless make a permanent imprint on the human heart.

As with her other "Way Back" books, Kay’s newest is packed with recipes for tantalizing foods, all of which are accompanied by small vignettes describing the context in which they were served and which illustrate the bond of food, family, and faith.


Product Details:
List Price: $14.95
Paperback: 272 pages
Publisher: Hannibal Books (April 29, 2013)
Language: English
ISBN-10: 1613150253
ISBN-13: 978-1613150252


AND NOW...THE FIRST CHAPTER:

Introduction



Food and Faith:

Holy Ground



Early June mornings, while the dew still shimmered on the summer grass, I wordlessly followed my mother out back to her prized spot by the hedge.



In my shirtwaist of starched organdy with its prodigious bow I stood expectantly while she took her shears and lopped off the most showy bloom from a bush in her gardenia rows.



Fragrance from the creamy white petals invaded my nostrils as she pulled a silver safety pin from her apron pocket and fastened the flower to my dress.



Down the street, bells from the tile-roofed steeple called neighboring children to line up for Vacation Bible School. Mother wanted to be sure I wore (and smelled) my church-going best even though the morning would find me wrist-deep in finger paints.



At noon, after my class of kindergarteners had memorized our Scripture verses and heard flannelgraph Bible stories and pledged allegiance to the Christian flag, I walked the short block back home to my house.



By that point my gardenia was limp and brown-tipped; its scent was diluted by my sweatdrops from the playground.



But none of that mattered, because my mother was waiting with her welcoming lunch of tuna-salad sandwiches and chocolate-chip cookies formed into bars.



When I think about the days in which the concept of God’s love first was introduced in my life, I can’t help associating those happenings with the gardenia blossoms and tuna fish and bars of chewy chocolate.



Those summer-sweet days at Bible School helped teach me Who God was, how He created the world, how He moved in history, and how He was a personal Father Who knew and loved me.



Interlaced with all those memories, something yummy to eat always was around the corner. Food and faith—they were an everpresent duo in my life—just as I know they are in the lives of others, as well.





* * * * * * * *

This book, simply put, tells stories of ways I’ve experienced God—and the food that accompanied some of those God-moments.



Some think Christian testimonies must be linked to a pat, memorized format of Scriptures or must cover a set of key points that spring from a proper acronym.



In God’s Word, however, Bible figures simply share their testimonies by relating what God has done for them. The blind man Jesus heals proclaims through the simple statement, “I was blind but now I see!” (John 9:25). The forgiven woman at the well merely narrates, “He told me everything I ever did” (John 4:39). Before Agrippa, the apostle Paul quietly recalls the Damascus Road (Acts 26).



Old Testament writers repeatedly recount God’s hand in history (for example, Ps. 18). All are simple stories, earnestly told, of golden God-moments in each of their lives.



Way Back in the Gardenia Rows represents a collection of my faith stories—certainly not every one of them, since they happen every day and every hour. Oceans of ink could not possibly describe them all.



Part of them recount my “faith genealogy”—religious influences from past generations that trickled down to merge into the river of faith that flows into my heart. They show how God was at work in my life for generations before I ever was born.



Others delineate times in which God’s hand was so apparent that I could only stop and acknowledge, as Moses did, that I stood on holy ground. Some occur during a tsunami of tragedy and challenge; others happen on spiritual mountaintops; still others take place during unremarkable, quiet moments with nothing afoot except the stirring of the Spirit.



These are family stories; God works in families in every generation. From the first biblical grouping of Adam and Eve and their offspring He picks the family as the milieu in which He accomplishes His work. He places Jesus into a family. This is what He does with me as well.



Although our paltry lives may seem inconsequential, they actually are no different from those of the Old Testament patriarchs or the New Testament martyrs. All of us, as our pastor once instructed us, are involved in an epic that surpasses the great epic films such as Braveheart or Last of the Mohicans or Gladiator. We are involved in an epic tale that is the redemption of humankind. Every single day “we get to play a part in that huge story,” he told us.1



This is simply my version of my particular bit-part in that epic. One generation will commend your works to another; they will tell of your mighty acts, says Psalm 145:4. I want to make sure that the next generations are reminded of His mighty acts in my life and theirs, too.



As with my previous two cookbooks, which featured the antics of The Three Red-Haired Miller Girls (my mother and two aunts) and the generations that surrounded them, these family stories are linked to recipes—a food that was served at the dinner after a baptism, cookies that were prepared as we celebrated the miracle of our daughter’s graduation. I consider these foods to be integral to that particular memory from my faith journey. The story of that event wouldn’t be complete without remembering what we ate, who originated the recipes, and other lore that surrounded the cooking and consuming.



Many of these cooks have left this earth and today are dining in the banquet hall of the King. Telling about their special dishes almost seems to bring these dear ones back to life again.



* * * * * * * *

These happen to be my stories, but they are undistinguished. Every reader can spin similar yarns—only the names and circumstances differ from those of mine. Again, as with my two previous recipe books, I repeat the urging: tell your own tales, preserve your own happenings. Commend God’s works in your life to the generation that follows yours. While you’re at it, throw in a good recipe or two. Lock all this in for those that live after you.



Make sure they know that throughout your life, humble and ordinary as it may seem in the scope of human history, you—as I—have been standing on holy ground.













Today’s tuna-salad versions are so soigné with upscale additions, our forebears wouldn’t recognize this basic staple that was on the table at least three or four times a week (served on white bread with crusts removed) when I was a pup. All these years later I still think my mother’s cloth-coat variety is best.





Mable’s Tuna-Fish Sandwich Spread



1 (5-ounce) can tuna, packed in water

1 hard-boiled egg, diced

1 medium apple, chopped

2 ribs celery, chopped

1/2 cup mayonnaise



In a medium bowl flake tuna that has been drained. Stir in egg, apple, and celery. Fold in mayonnaise. Spread on bread slices.





Chapter 1



Tippy-Toeing By



“Keep your eyes straight ahead, and whatever you do, don’t look out at the audience.”



No set of instructions could have been more of a siren song to a 5 1/2-year-old—even one about to follow Christ in baptism as she stood in slightly chilly waters on a spring morning.



After all, I had to know whether my daddy was out there among the onlookers. Daddy typically worshiped at his own church—Austin Street Church of Christ—on Sundays, while Mother and I filled the pews at First Baptist, Garland.



But on this red-letter day Daddy made a special exception and joined the Baptists in worship. All the more reason why I simply must careen my head ever so slightly toward the crowd to see whether I could nab a glimpse of him.



Then, just as the service was about to start, I heard him clear his throat. Nobody made this trademark, gutteral throat-



clearing sound like my Daddy. Suddenly I had the answer I needed. He’s here! I could assure myself.



I righted myself on the platform with its few bricks added so my shrimpy little head could be seen above the baptistery rail. Bro. Cockrell then baptized me as a symbol of my pledge to live for Jesus from that time on.



How did it happen that one so young—barely a first-grader—was making the most important decision of her life?



Long before my birth, did certain foundation stones that would help me one day decide I wanted to become a Christian get cemented in place?



Granted, God has no grandchildren. We do not inherit salvation just because we had righteous forebears. Every person must make his or her own decision about trusting Christ as Savior.



Yet the milieu in which I was reared most certainly created a fertile ground for being open to the gospel. Who had plowed that ground before me?



* * * * * * * *

To answer that question, I started by looking at the faith-lives of some of the Christians on my family tree. For example, if anyone ever found God’s grace dumped smack-dab in the center of her lap, it would be my maternal great-grandmother, Frances Mitchell Harris.



I let my imagination wander back to 1873 and tried to envision 20-year-old Frances as she and her family of eight jostled along in their ox-wagon on the rutted roads between their home near Jackson, MS, and their new location in northeast Texas.



Did Frances hear, No going back. No going back, every time a loose side board on their wagon made a clomp-clomp-clack, clomp-clomp-clack sound? As the prairie road snaked by her, Frances doubtless knew she might never return to her birthplace in the Deep South. Frances was the oldest offspring of her parents, Littleton and Annie Eliza Mitchell. What would Texas be like for the Mitchells in this new state to the west? she may have pondered.



In Frances’ mind, just about any place would have been good for putting the past behind her. Like many others, her family had lost everything in the Civil War. Littleton’s plantation near Jackson was burned out in the “late conflict”, as many called it. A friend of “Lit” already had relocated to Kaufman County, TX, and had a large farm there. He asked Lit to join him in Texas and help work the blackland prairie in that area.



Frances also had another reason for needing a new locale. She had ended a brief marriage to her young husband, James Miller. They had married in Mississippi a few days before Frances’ 15th birthday but parted only about a year later when things didn’t work out. James had been 21.



Twin babies lay buried under the soil back home in the Magnolia State.1 A wedded life that began with high hopes had gone afoul. Perhaps Texas would bring happier times.



* * * * * * * *

Another Texas newcomer—Joseph Francis Harris, who farmed land nearby—already made his home in Kaufman County, where the Mitchells soon would build their log cabin with its dirt floor. Though only 23 Joe Harris already had his share of rip-snorting life experiences.



Hailing from Washington County, IL, Joe at age 18 enlisted in the War Between the States, where he fought opposite Frances Mitchell’s South. Although he is not thought to have seen much combat, Joe was injured in a fall from a bucking horse while he was on Army duty in May 1865.2 After his discharge he was badly hurt while he worked on a dredge boat on the Mississippi River. Once in Texas he became a stagecoach driver; while doing this he almost froze to death in a snow-and-sleet storm.



But by the time the Mitchell family arrived in Kaufman County in 1872 or 1873, Joe had settled into farming. Sometime soon after the Mitchells landed in Texas, Joe and Frances met and fell in love. Frances never had obtained a divorce from James Miller, although they had been separated for several years. But a few days after that divorce was granted, a JP married Frances and Joe. The newlyweds lived on a farm about 12 miles from Terrell, TX.3



Before 11 months of marriage went by, a baby boy was born to the couple. Indeed, if Frances were grieving an empty cradle from an earlier time, the arrival of Charles Cornelius Harris on December 31, 1873, helped fill the hole in her heart. Before young Charlie reached age 2, a second boy, Eddie, joined the family; another brother, Thomas, was born before Charlie was 3. Twins Jesse and Albert would appear on the scene before Charlie celebrated his 5th birthday.



God truly had granted Frances a second chance from the life she left behind in Mississippi. At the end of the clomp-clomp-clack, no-going-back of the ox-wagon, God had made sure the man who would become her life’s companion and by whom she would have 14 children was already in place, waiting for her.



* * * * * * * *

How Frances Harris’ faith shaped her life in those days is not precisely defined in the record left behind her. Her obituary states that she had been a member of the Baptist church all her life. I feel fortunate to possess her family Bible and know she must have opened it for guidance, especially during times of heartache that were to lie ahead for her and Joe.



Their second and third boys, Eddie and Thomas, each died in young childhood. Their first daughter, Mollie May, did not live to see her 2nd birthday. A later son, John Delbert, died as a teen. Jesse, one of the twins born to Joe and Frances, ultimately left his wife and their five young children and didn’t return to the family. How I wish we knew the verses Frances claimed as anchors during those hours of trial.



But Frances had to realize that God was the source of all her blessings and was the One who turned her life around from those dark days in Mississippi. A total of 57 grandchildren, including my mother, Mable Miller, and her sisters Frances and Bonnie, emerged from the 49-year union of Frances and Joe. Among Frances’ offspring are many committed Christians. My maternal grandmother, Mattie (ninth child of Joe and Frances), no doubt was put on that pathway by a godly mother.

A loving family surrounded Grandma Harris with affection and care until her life ended at 92. As I wrote in my first cookbook, Way Back in the Country, Grandma’s photographs in later years always showed her with a contented smile, even though a broken hip left her wheelchair-confined during many of those latter years.



I’m convinced that Frances Harris was a woman with peace in her heart because she knew that God was the Source of all she had received in this life and would provide for her in the next.



Frances Mitchell Harris—the first plank in the platform of faith that would shape my years.



* * * * * * * *

The second plank—the Miller clan on the paternal side—also demonstrated faith in times of severe hardship—faith that would trickle down to my mother and ultimately to me. (This Miller family was no relation to Grandma Harris’ first husband, James.)



My great-great-grandmother, Rebecca Compton Miller, remained devoted to God even after her husband, Peter White Miller Sr., was butchered4 up and died from complications of his war injuries. He had served in the Confederate Army from Tennessee.



Rebecca, like many other Civil War widows, no doubt experienced cruelties in the years just after the war. Likely her land and other property eventually were seized. At the time, she was 46. Her children included a 2-year-old son.



Ultimately she moved from Tennessee to Delta County, TX, to join several of her kin. One of them was son Alfred Compton Miller, eventually grandfather to the Miller Girls.



Family historian Garland Button conjectures that a life of Christian dignity even in the face of suffering and separation characterized stalwart Rebecca. “The life of Rebecca Compton Miller must have undoubtedly been deeply rooted in the Christian faith,” Button writes. He says this was reflected in the lives of the 15 Miller children, all of whom lived to adulthood.



“This family is one that throughout its history has been made up of people dedicated to the Christian ethic in its fullest sense,” Button continued.



Like his father, Alfred C. Miller was not given the gift of years. At age 40 in 1892 he passed from this life and left his wife, Margaret, as a young widow with six children—a seventh one died just three weeks before Alf did.



At this point my mother and her sisters became direct eyewitnesses to the Miller family faith legacy.



Their grandmother, Margaret, as had her mother-in-law, Rebecca, lived with the families of various children after she was widowed. My mother, Mable, remembers Grandma Miller kneeling every night by her bedside while she stayed in the home of the Miller Girls’ parents, Mark and Mattie.



“We would see her praying and would tippy-toe by the door so we wouldn’t disturb her,” my mother recalled.



The bowed countenance of Margaret Miller, a grandmother who had suffered much, impressed Mable, Frances, and Bonnie Miller. In their adult lives all three sisters were Christian women devoted to prayer.



As they grew up, the Miller Girls were always in church—singing their red-haired father’s favorite hymn, “Wonderful Words of Life”, as well as other classics. As I wrote in the chapter, “Roll, Jordan, Roll”, in my first cookbook, Way Back in the Country, the three sisters never had a question about whether the family would attend services on Sunday; the question of where depended on the weather. Their own church was the New Hope Baptist Church, where Papa was ordained a deacon. But if rains had fallen on Saturday night and the roads weren’t dry, the Methodist church in Brushy Mound was closer to them and would do just fine.



All three girls trusted Christ as Savior and were baptized in the pool adjacent to the cotton gin in their community. Way Back in the Country describes frequent two-week tent revivals. At one of them Mable made her profession of faith.



History repeated itself into a third generation when the Miller Girls’ mother, Mattie, was left a widow while in the prime of her life—age 49. Three successive Miller men—Peter Miller; Peter’s son, Alfred, and Alf’s son, Marcus—all died in middle age, leaving wives and families that depended on them.



Once again a grieving Miller woman turned to—and found—help in the Heavenly Father. Mattie easily could have given God a real flaying and demanded to know why her beloved was abruptly taken from her. Instead she leaned on Him in her needy hour. Just as the Miller Girls had observed their grandmother in prayer, I often saw my Nanny with bowed head as she sat in her rocker with her Bible open. I always felt confident that some of those prayers were for me. Almost until she died, she gave enthusiastically to the Billy Graham Evangelistic Association. Her means were few, but out of them she contributed to spread the gospel.



Christian role-modeling from this second plank of my faith legacy—the Millers. In you our fathers put their trust; they trusted and you delivered them (Ps. 22:4).



* * * * * * * *

Matters of faith in the Wheeler family—the third plank in my platform—are detailed in chapter 2, “The Runaway”. But a visual that I observed when I once visited my grandfather Wheeler’s place of origin—Borden Springs, AL—summed up the story for me.



There, in a graveyard adjacent to the Church of Christ, were Wheeler markers as far as the eye could see. Towering over them was the headstone for the grave of Calvin Marshall Wheeler, my granddad’s grandfather—the progenitor.



Churches of Christ had a heavy concentration in Alabama as the movement grew in the middle of the 19th century. It traces its origins to the Restoration Movement (also called the Stone-Campbell movement) of the late 18th and early 19th centuries, as Barton Stone-Alexander Campbell followers from Kentucky and Tennessee migrated into northern Alabama.



Cathryn Killian, my late cousin on the Wheeler side, told me that the Wheeler family had been aligned with Churches of Christ for many generations, which probably explains why my dad never quite was willing to sprint over and join my Baptist mom in her church membership. My granddad, James Devastus Wheeler (I nicknamed him “Bandad”), became a lay Church of Christ preacher, as the next chapter explains. His spiritual impact on my life was immeasurable.



My grandfather was a boy of 3 when his father, James Washington Wheeler (more on him in the next chapter) pulled up stakes from this idyllic setting in the Blue Ridge foothills and began his Texas migration. Whether my grandfather’s branch ever made return trips to Alabama to see those left behind is a matter of mystery.



But in their new state they decidedly brought their Church of Christ heritage. Once settled into Antioch, TX, in Delta County, they joined the Church of Christ. James Devastus grew up in that setting and at age 13 was baptized at nearby Rattan.6 As an adult, when he and Zella moved to Cooper in 1910, he found no Church of Christ congregation existed and drew together a few disciples to begin a local body.7 My Bandad, in my estimation, was one of the truest Christians that ever walked on the earth.



* * * * * * * *

The spiritual roots of the W.H. Wright family–my dad’s maternal side—are obtuse because of the situation that makes most Wright information cloudy. Chapter 10, “In Search of Mollie V.”, describes the early passing of my grandmother’s mother, Mollie V. Wright, when Mammaw was 6. Mammaw—Zella Mae Wright—then died when I was 10, so I was physically around her less and “caught” less information from her (except one rare jewel of a fact described later) than I did from any of my other living grandparents.



I do know that her family also evacuated from northern Mississippi in the wake of the Civil War aftermath—no doubt for some of the same atrocities that caused the Mitchells and Millers to flee the Deep South.



Regardless of the W.H. Wrights’ faith tradition, soon after Zella married my Bandad, J.D. Wheeler, she joined the Church of Christ and became a part of his family faith practices. She was baptized by C.E. Holt at Rattan, TX.



Here is what my grandfather, her life’s companion of 57 years, wrote on the one-year anniversary of Zella’s passing: “She spent much time in the study of the Bible and was a good Bible student. She spent much time in prayer. Zella was a devoted Christian and a true helper in life, in joy and in sorrow. I believe she is safe in the arms of Jesus.”



Little else needs to be said from this one who knew her best. As with my Nanny, the prayers of my devoted Mammaw, Zella Wright, may just have been some of her greatest spiritual contributions to my life.





* * * * * * * *

What were those prayers by my Nanny and Mammaw? I have no doubt that in part, they pled with God to send a child to their infertile children—Mable and J.D. (Doyce).



And does God answer prayers retroactively? Since prayer transcends time and space, did He know of the urgent petitions my Nanny and my Mammaw one day would utter and start answering them . . . before either of those godly women was even born?



Consider the following story, which concludes my first chapter. The name in this amazing tale—W.F. Kimmell—won’t appear on any of the family trees at the end of the book. But this Civil War narrative about W.F. is as vital to my family faith heritage as are any of these already told.



* * * * * * * *

Eager to do his part for his country, Albion, IN, native William Francis Kimmell enlisted in the 8th Regiment, Ohio Volunteer Infantry in April 1861. Enthusiastically he wrote regular and highly detailed letters home to his lady friend, Leah Crispell, back in Albion.8



Initially W.F.’s letters are cheery and buoyant. “I am here a United States soldier enlisted for three years and hoping to do something for my country before I come home again,” he wrote in June 1861.



As days wore on, the realities of the War Between the States set in for this Union frontline infantryman—who fought in some of the bloodiest battles of the American Civil War. Many times the enemy troops that faced the 8th Ohio were led by none other than the brilliant strategist, Confederate Gen. Stonewall Jackson, who knew nothing if not how to annihilate troops. “I helped bury fifteen rebels today,” William’s letter in October 1861 said. “A person never thinks of the dead and wounded during a battle. But it is a horrible sight after it’s all over.”



After the Battle of Blue’s Gap (WV), Kimmell wrote Leah on January 15, 1862, “There was a bullet went through my coat.” After the battle of Winchester, VA, in April 1862, he penned, “I had four bullet ho(l)e in my overcoat, one of them give me a little scratch on the arm.”



At the Battle of Antietam, the bloodiest day of the war, Kimmell wrote of his group, “Four killed and sixteen wounded out of the thirty-two engaged. How I ever escaped unharmed is a mystery to me . . ..”



After the Battle of Gettysburg, Kimmell wrote Leah, “There is but eleven of us left out of the ninety-eight that came into Virginia two years ago. My chances are growing smaller all the time.”



In December 1863 Kimmell described continued carnage: “I am now the last one of the six men left in the company (six men who shared a tent as they first came into Virginia two years beforehand). . .. Why should they all go before me? I was always considered the smallest and the weakest one of the lot.”



But W.F. continued to survive fray after fray and returned safely home to Albion in late July 1864. William and Leah, to whom he mailed the letters considered to be a unique, firsthand glimpse of frontline Civil War military life, married shortly afterward.



* * * * * * * *

A pensive W.F. once posed the question, “Why should they all go before me?” Earlier he had written, “How I ever escaped unharmed is a mystery to me.” W.F. pondered how he was allowed to live when bullets whirred all around him and death claimed comrade after comrade.



To God, however, the answer to W.F.’s questions was anything but a mystery. God saw beyond those bloody fields of battle and down through the generations to those Delta County prayers that one day Mattie and Zella would pray. The two women’s children—Mable and J.D.—were so, so, so meant to be parents but could not produce them genetically. Mattie and Zella surely begged heaven for a child to occupy this deserving home.



I believe God preserved W.F. because He knew that through his bloodline would spring the child God—from before the foundation of the world—already had picked out to fill those empty arms. He knew that in W.F.’s bloodline one day would be an infant who would need an adoptive mom and dad.



On a November day in 1948, a husband and wife from the combined merger of the Millers, the Harrises, the Mitchells, the Wrights, the Wheelers—all the families mentioned previously in this chapter—would show up at Florence Nightingale Maternity Hospital in Dallas and would present themselves to be just the adoptive parents that this child would need.



On the Civil War’s bloodiest days, God took me into account. It was an example of God’s prevenient grace—the grace that works ahead of time for a specific event in the future. “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you,” Jeremiah 1:5 tells us.

I believe He kept W.F. alive so that His perfect will might be enacted.







My mother’s Golden Fried Okra was an after-church staple we could count on. Although I can’t guarantee it was on the table the Sunday after I was raised out of the baptismal waters, I know my mother missed very few Sundays preparing this dish, which has been called the “pâté of the South”.





Golden Fried Okra



20 okra pods, cut into 1/2-inch pieces

2 eggs, beaten

1 cup all-purpose flour

1 cup cornmeal

1 teaspoon salt

1/4 teaspoon paprika

1-inch cooking oil



Stir cut-up okra into beaten eggs; then dredge in mixture of flour, cornmeal, salt, and paprika. In large skillet fry in hot oil until golden brown. Drain on paper towels. Makes 4 servings.

Friday, April 5, 2013

The Christian Mama's Guide to the First School Years by Erin MacPherson FWCT Book Review

It is time for a FIRST Wild Card Tour book review! If you wish to join the FIRST blog alliance, just click the button. We are a group of reviewers who tour Christian books. A Wild Card post includes a brief bio of the author and a full chapter from each book toured. The reason it is called a FIRST Wild Card Tour is that you never know if the book will be fiction, non~fiction, for young, or for old...or for somewhere in between! Enjoy your free peek into the book!

You never know when I might play a wild card on you!



Today's Wild Card author is:


and the book:

Thomas Nelson (April 9, 2013)

***Special thanks to Erin MacPherson for sending me a review copy.***

ABOUT THE AUTHOR:

Erin MacPherson is a mom of three who never does anything halfway. When she discovered she was pregnant she decided to write about it—but then kept writing. A former staff writer and editor for Nickelodeon, Erin now entertains parents on her personal blog as well as through freelance magazine articles, devotionals and speaking. She wants to come beside her readers not only as a confidant and Christian sister, but also as a best girlfriend who understands what daily life is all about.

Visit the author's website.


SHORT BOOK DESCRIPTION:

The Christian Mama's Guide to the First School Years: Prepares moms for the time when their school-aged kids take their first few steps into the world and away from mama's nest.

Sending a child off to school is a whole lot more than stocking up on school supplies and packing a (somewhat) healthy lunch. This helpful guidebook walks Christian moms through:

  • discovering a long-term vision for the person that Christ has purposed for your child to become
  • instilling a sense of "who I am and where I came from" in your child
  • choosing a school for your kids
  • helping your kids to develop key attributes—courage, kindness, perseverance—that lead to success in school
  • dealing with teachers, sports, and lessons
  • navigating those difficult conversations that will come sooner rather than later
  • a special feature includes sidebars "From the Principal's Office" with insights from a 35-year elementary school principal and educator

Moms will learn how to cover their children in prayer so that their launch into the world, and away from her control, is done with grace and wisdom—helping them grow into the men and women God intended them to be.



Product Details:
List Price: $15.99

Paperback: 208 pages
Publisher: Thomas Nelson (April 9, 2013)
Language: English
ISBN-10: 0849964768
ISBN-13: 978-0849964763



AND NOW...THE FIRST CHAPTER:


Introduction

Into the Big, Wide (and Sometimes Scary) World



Whoever created the drop-off policy at my son Joey's elementary school had clearly never met a newbie kindergarten mom. Because when the letter outlining first-day drop off instructions arrived in the mail along with his school supply list, I started to hyperventilate. Okay, so I might be exaggerating, but I certainly had a momentary panic where I considered whiting out my son's birth date on his birth certificate and keeping him home another year.

The letter was short and sweet.



Dear Parents,

In an effort to ensure the safety of our students on the first day of school, we ask that you drop all kids off by the front doors and then continue to exit through the west parking lot. We will have teachers and student leaders available to escort new kindergarten students through the doors and into the cafeteria where their teachers will be waiting. We ask that you please do not park your car in order to walk your child into the school . . .



That's all I had to read for the panic to start. My son—my baby!—had to walk from my car and into the big, wide school all by himself. All. By. Himself. What if his backpack was too heavy? Or what if a big bad fifth grader bullied him as he walked in? (I hear those big kids are getting bigger every year.) I mean, the potential crises that could result in those ten steps between my car and the school were enough to make my heart start a-racin'. He could stub his toe as he walked through the threshold, for goodness’ sake, and spend the entire day in toe-stubbed misery. This was not good. Not good at all.

As terrible scenarios raced through my mind, my husband had to restrain me from picking up the phone and calling the school to complain. He reminded me that schools make policies like that for a reason. And usually that reason was because of over-panicky parents like me. Okay, he didn't say that. But I could tell he was thinking it.

On the Saturday before school started, we drove to the school and practiced. (I know, I know. Overachiever mom. Or maybe it's overprotective mom.) I pulled up in front of the school and let Joey unbuckle himself, grab his backpack, and walk those ten big steps to the door. He did it five times—just for good measure—and once I was confidant that he was going to manage just fine without stubbing his toe, we left.

And on Monday, I put on my bravest face.

I scrubbed Joey's face and combed his hair. I made pancakes for breakfast and arranged blueberries in the shape of a smiley face on top. I lovingly packed his lunch and wrote him a little note just to say how much I adored him (because I figured he’d be reading by lunchtime, he’s super smart). I took at least ten thousand pictures before I loaded him into the car. And I put those keys in the ignition and headed toward the school while trying to control the tears that threatened to start rolling down my face.

As we pulled up to the school, I pasted a smile on my face as I turned to my baby-turned-big boy and said "This is it, Joey! I'm so proud of you! I love you."

And he was off.

Confidently taking those first ten steps into the big, wide world.

I watched him taking every single one of those steps in my rearview mirror with tears streaming down my face. Tears of joy. Tears of sadness. And tears of hope. And I prayed that as we all made this big—no, monumental—transition of starting school, that I could handle it with courage, grace, and a giant sprinkling of Christlike love.

Sending your baby off into the big, wide world is bittersweet. It's exciting. Your kid now has the chance to make a stand—a stand for who he is, what he believes in, and what he wants to be. But it's also sad. Your baby is growing up. And while this is certainly not the end of your time as a mom—you can go ahead and trust me that your mom skills will be tested in the year to come as they’ve never have been before—it's the end of an era of sorts. And as you move out of the preschool era, you get to move into the big-kid era.

An era when your kid will grow and learn more than you ever imagined.

An era when your kid will (hopefully) solidify his trust in Christ.

An era when your kid will learn what faith and grace and hope truly mean.

And as you make this transition, I want to come beside you to share my stories. My struggles. My over-panicky moments. So that you, too, can send your kid off into the big, wide world with the confidence he needs to thrive.



A note for my particularly scrupulous readers: You may notice that all of the pronouns in this book are male. This was a decision made by my editors and I in order to keep the copy simple and consistent. It in no way means that that this book is more applicable to boys or that I intended the tips and advice in this book to be just for boys. So, if you happen to have a daughter (like I do), please mentally substitute "her" for "him" and "she" for "he" as you read. And then write a very serious letter to whoever invented the English language letting them know how much easier our lives would be if pronouns weren't gender specific.


Chapter 1



Getting into the Big-Kid-Mama Groove

Surviving and Thriving as You Transition into the Grade School Years



It's a little bit ironic that the first time (ever) that Joey slept past 6:00 a.m. was on his first day of kindergarten.

During Joey's toddler and preschool years, I had literally tried every possible strategy to get Joey to sleep in. We begged. We pleaded. We bribed him with chocolate chip pancakes on any day that he slept past seven. Which never happened. We even got one of those "Okay to Wake" clocks that glowed when it was okay for him to get up, which only resulted in him waking me up at five a.m. to check and see "if the clock was still working." It was.

Anyway, by the time Joey turned five, I had given up on turning him into a late sleeper. We made a rule that he had to stay in bed—reading or whatnot—until the sun came up. If he wanted to wake up at o'dark thirty and just lay there, then that was his prerogative. And so he did, morning after morning, month after month, year after year. Until that hot day in August when he had to go to school for the first time. On that day, he decided to sleep in. In fact, I had to drag him out of bed by 6:30 to make sure we made it to school on time.

The next day, he slept in again.

And on that Saturday morning, he slept until eight. Eight in the morning! And as he trudged down the stairs in all his bedheaded glory, he announced to me that now that he was in kindergarten, he was going to start sleeping like a teenager. (Because, in case you're wondering, teenagers sleep until eight. Or something like that.)

I hate to be the one to break the news to you, but your kid is growing up. And that means your parenting is going to have to grow up a bit too. You probably no longer have to worry that your kid is going to wake up at 4:42 a.m. and dump Cheerios all over your bed. Or have a potty accident at playgroup. Or have a meltdown in the middle of the Target aisle. (Unless, of course, a sugar-low coincides with a sale on sticker books, in which case all bets are off.)

Big-kid parenting is just different from baby or toddler parenting. Where before you were vigilant, now you have to be strategic. And where before you were black-and-white, now you can start to add some color to your parenting. You can add some orange ideas here and a bright turquoise discipline choice there. And before long, you'll discover a whole rainbow of possibilities with your big kid. Okay, enough with the cheesy metaphors—I'm sure you get it. Your kid is bigger. And that means you have to start parenting bigger too. I've written this book to help you do exactly that. But first, here are a few tricks and tips to help you get into the big-kid-mama groove.



How to Get into the Big-Kid-Mama Groove [[A head]]

1. Think before you act. [[B head]]

Back in your toddler-mama days, you had to think fast. Because if you didn't make a diving leap in front of your kid as he walked toward the mud puddle, he was certainly going to find a way to get every drop of water from that puddle into some place that it didn't belong. But now your kid is a big kid. And with that comes a measure of security. You probably don't have to worry that he's going to touch the hot coals in the fireplace or smear sweet potato puree onto the underside of the couch cushions. And, that security buys you time to think a bit before you act. Nothing is as pressing as it was when your kid was small.

So what exactly does more-thinking, less-reacting parenting look like? It means instead of jumping to reprimand or reward your kid, you spend some time thinking about the best way to approach each situation. And—even more important—you allow your kid to spend time contemplating the best approach to each and every situation as well. So instead of jumping to your kid's rescue when he's struggling to figure out how to put together his Legos, allow him the space to ask for help. And when he misbehaves, don't intervene immediately, but allow both of you some time to cool off and consider things. Because the more you allow yourself—and your kid—to think, the more he's going to learn and grow.



2. Lean on God more than ever. [[B head]]

Letting go is hard. Remember that story I told you in the introduction about the day I dropped Joey off at kindergarten for the first time? What I didn't tell you is that after I pulled out of that parking lot, I had to pull my car over because I was crying so hard that I couldn't see. I sat there on the side of the road—within view of the school—and sobbed for a good twenty minutes. Because my baby took my heart with him as he walked into that school.

My motherly instinct is to hold on—to cling to my children as if they are mine to hold and protect. And while I know that God's purposes for my children require independence, my mother's heart still needs some convincing. Because when my eyes see big kids—kids who are ready to face the big, wide world and all that comes with it—my heart still sees those tiny, precious babies that I once cradled in my arms. Tiny babies who have grown up way too fast.

I know that I still have a lot more letting go to do—I can't even imagine the tears I will shed when my tiny babies move on to middle school and then high school and—I don't even want to think about it—college. But now, while each tiny step feels like a rite of passage of its own, I'm learning to lean on Christ more than I ever have before. I cannot fulfill my job as a mother by clinging to my own understanding—because my human emotions and desires stand in the way of God's bigger picture. And only by turning to Christ will I teach my children that they, too, can turn to him as they grow.



3. Rely on prayer. [[B head]]

I'm a fixer. If I could, I'd like to pave the road for my kids with rainbows and cotton balls so that if they ever hit a snag, they'll land on a cuddly cloud of softness. (I’m sure Joey will love it when I talk like that when he's a teenager. Especially in front of his friends.) Anyway, when Joey mentioned to me one day last year that a kid in his class—let's call him Mr. Meanie Pants—had called him a "wimp" at school and refused to play with him at recess, I wanted to call up Mr. Meanie Pants’ mom and tell her exactly what I thought of her kid's bully tactics. That'd teach him to mess with my kid.

But I didn't call because I knew that part of growing up is learning to do things on your own. Well, that and I didn't have Mr. Meanie Pants’ mom's phone number. Instead, I prayed. I prayed that God would give Joey the insight to stand up for what is right. I prayed that Joey would learn how to discern right from wrong on the playground without becoming a bully or a victim. I prayed that I would know the words to say to help him learn important attributes like courage and kindness and respect.

I honestly don't know what happened with Mr. Meanie Pants. I have a feeling that by the time they hit the playground on the next day, both kids had probably forgotten about the incident and had moved on. Because Joey never mentioned Mr. Meany Pants again in a negative light.

I have to say that the incident with Mr. Meany Pants taught me a valuable lesson. (And no, it wasn't that playground politics should be left on the playground, although that's important too.) I learned that while my mama-bear instincts might tell me to toss gumdrops and lollipops at my kids in order to make sure their days are happy, my Christian instinct should always be to turn toward prayer. Because while I won't always be able to fix things for my kids, I can always rely on God to stand in the gap for them.



4. Make quality time a priority. [[B head]]

Once your kid starts school, those easy-breezy days when you had nothing to do but sit around in your pajamas and read the same stories over and over and over are, well, over. And I'm telling you this because I know how much people love it when I state the obvious. But also because I want to save you the embarrassment that will certainly come when your kid shows up at school and tells his teacher that he spent his summer eating Captain Crunch out of the box because "mommy didn't have time to wash the spoons."

Schooling takes time—and whether you send your kid to school or homeschool, the amount of free time you have to just hang out with your kid will certainly decrease. But I'm a quality over quantity type of person. I mean, think about it: would you rather have a whole bag of M&Ms or one really amazing piece of rich, expensive dark chocolate? Okay, forget that analogy because the obvious answer is both. But my point is that even if you don't have a ton of time with your kid, you can still make that time count.

One thing I do is set aside after-school snack time as "us" time. I whip up a from-scratch batch of chocolate chip cookies—okay, I feed him Goldfish crackers—and spend a half hour talking to him about his day. I also try to do something fun as a family each weekend—go on a bike ride or go bowling—so there is something non-school and non-chore related that we can do together at least once every week. Whatever we're doing, I make it a point to spend quality time with my kids every day.
Ready, Set, Invest [[Ahead]]

Throughout this book I hope to give you tips, ideas, and strategies to go beyond simply parenting your kids. Because I know that's simply not enough. Instead, I want to help you invest in your kid's Christian heritage—not their future success, their academic achievement, or that football scholarship that you're hoping for—but in who your kids are in Christ. Because the truth is, that as you send your kid out into the big, wide world, your ultimate goal is not that your kid will learn to stand on her own two feet but, instead, to learn to stand on the Rock.



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Time-out for Mom

For When You’re Preparing Your Heart to Send Your Kids Out into the World



“Know therefore that the Lord your God is God; he is the faithful God, keeping his covenant of love to a thousand generations of those who love him and keep his commandments.” (Deuteronomy 7:9)



Heavenly Father, I am so grateful for your faithfulness! I know that you have a covenant of love with your children, and that is such a comfort to me! I am scared right now, Lord. I am getting ready to send my baby away from the shelter of my nest and into the world. Guide my words and my actions, Lord, so that I can prepare my child to be a servant, a disciple, and a follower of you. Help him to shine bright in a dark world so that your love will be evident through everything he does. Amen.



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10 Things to Remember as You Send Your Kid Off into the Big, Wide World [[A head]]

There's a reason that glitter glue and baby wipes were on your school supply list. And it's the same reason that you shouldn't send your kid to school in the $80 blouse that your mother-in-law got her for Easter.
Make your kid memorize the following: I will bring my lunch box home from school every day. Because there's a hard-and-fast rule at my house that mommy doesn't pick moldy carrot sticks out of lunch boxes.
Your kid may say he understands the book checkout system in the library. He may even think he understands the book checkout system in the library. But you should probably go over it again before the next class library day. Because twenty confused kids equals one frustrated librarian and the chance that your kid won't be able to check out the new Fly Guy book until next week.
"Because I said so" is a perfectly acceptable answer to the question, "Why can't I bring my pet lizard to school?" But that doesn't mean your big kid won't try to find out why exactly it's such a bad idea for himself.
The desire to be clean apparently must develop post-elementary school. So that battle you've been doing to get your kid to bathe, well, it will continue for the foreseeable future.
It's still okay to kiss your kid goodbye. Just do it quickly before his friends see.
Even if your kid can read to himself now, she will still love it when you read him a bedtime story.
Just because you pack kale chips and a sprouted hummus sandwich in your kid's lunch, doesn't mean he's going to eat it. Chances are—smarty pants that he is—he'll find a way to swindle the girl next to him out of her Twinkie by saying that his quinoa bake is "a princess pie."
Your kid is watching you. And that means that your little meltdown over the fact that daddy is coming home late again will not only be stored in his little brain under "appropriate ways to react when frustrated," but will also probably be reported in full detail to his teacher, friends, and guidance counselor tomorrow.
Your kid may be a big kid, but he still needs his mommy. Make room for those gangly legs on your lap and give your kid the time and space just to be with you. Because no kid is ever too big for mommy snuggles. Except for maybe a teenager.

Thursday, April 4, 2013

The Christian Mama's Guide to Parenting a Toddler by Erin MacPherson FWCT Book Review

It is time for a FIRST Wild Card Tour book review! If you wish to join the FIRST blog alliance, just click the button. We are a group of reviewers who tour Christian books. A Wild Card post includes a brief bio of the author and a full chapter from each book toured. The reason it is called a FIRST Wild Card Tour is that you never know if the book will be fiction, non~fiction, for young, or for old...or for somewhere in between! Enjoy your free peek into the book!

You never know when I might play a wild card on you!



Today's Wild Card author is:


and the book:

Thomas Nelson (April 9, 2013)

***Special thanks to Erin MacPherson for sending me a review copy.***

ABOUT THE AUTHOR:

Erin MacPherson is a mom of three who never does anything halfway. When she discovered she was pregnant she decided to write about it—but then kept writing. A former staff writer and editor for Nickelodeon, Erin now entertains parents on her personal blog as well as through freelance magazine articles, devotionals and speaking. She wants to come beside her readers not only as a confidant and Christian sister, but also as a best girlfriend who understands what daily life is all about.

Visit the author's website.


SHORT BOOK DESCRIPTION:

The Christian Mama's Guide to Parenting a Toddler: What's a mom to do when her sweet baby's smiles and snuggles turn to tears and tantrums?

This take on everything toddler—from throwing food to potty training to massive toddler fits—is filled with sanity-saving advice every mom wants to hear. Helpful tips include how to:

  • stop a tantrum in its tracks (or at least survive the tantrum without breaking into tears of your own)
  • discipline your child in a way that demonstrates Christ's redeeming love
  • make your marriage a priority when your kid is a squeaky wheel that always seems to need your time and attention
  • introduce your child to Jesus in a way that leads to authentic faith
  • convince a one-and-a-half year old that broccoli really is better than cookies—even if you don't believe it yourself

Moms will be entertained and encouraged by the amusing anecdotes and godly advice of this comprehensive, topical approach to parenting one and two year olds.



Product Details:
List Price: $15.99
Paperback: 224 pages
Publisher: Thomas Nelson (April 9, 2013)
Language: English
ISBN-10: 084996475X
ISBN-13: 978-0849964756



AND NOW...THE FIRST CHAPTER:


Introduction

What Happened to My Sweet Baby?

Your baby is (or at least was) about as close to perfection as you’ll find this side of heaven. Those dreamy grins every time you walked into the room. The sweet melody of ba-ba-la-la-las in the baby monitor as you woke up each morning. Those moments when she snuggled close and fell asleep on your shoulder. Pure, sweet almost-perfection.

But recently, have you noticed something changing? Like those dreamy grins being replaced by snarls? And that sweet melody of ba-ba-la-la-las sounding an awful lot like, “No! Mine! No! No! No!”? And those snuggle-close-and-fall-asleep moments getting fewer and further between?

Just as you were getting that whole baby thing down pat, your kid decides to up and turn one-and-a-half on you. And suddenly, you’re afraid to go out in public because your kid might pitch a royal fit, but you don’t want to stay home because your kid might have a tantrum. You can’t go to restaurants (he might smoosh peas into the carpet) or to parks (he might hit someone) or to stores (he might climb the shelves). How do you survive?

I remember the day I realized that my son was in the terrible twos. We were at the park with the other moms in my MOPS group and Joey picked up a pebble (okay, it was a rock) and threw it at another kid. Gulp. After a very long (and very passionate) lecture on why rock throwing isn’t a nice thing to do, I was certain that Joey wouldn’t do it again. He was so contrite. And surely he hadn’t done it on purpose. He was only one! So I hugged my oh-so-sweet son tightly and sent him off to play. And, as soon as he escaped my grip, he smiled innocently at me, picked up another rock and threw it at the same kid. Harder this time. Uh oh. Helllllo terrible twos.

So, what now? How do you survive when your kid can’t make it through the day (okay, the minute) without throwing a massive tantrum? And what do you do when she thinks that a balanced diet should consist solely of mac & cheese and chocolate chips? And how do you discipline a kid who can’t understand the difference between “steal” and “share”? And how in the world can you go grocery shopping when your kid’s throwing toys out of the cart every twelve seconds as you stock up in the bulk-foods aisle?

It’s time to adjust your mama game plan. You can be the mom of a one-and-a-half-year-old and still go into public and come home (somewhat) sane. And you can love God, love your husband, and (yes) even love your fit-throwing, no-saying, rock-throwing kid while doing it. Here’s how.



A note for my particularly scrupulous readers: You may notice that all of the pronouns in this book are male. This was a decision made by my editors and I in order to keep the copy simple and consistent. It in no way means that that this book is more applicable to boys or that I intended the tips and advice in this book to be just for boys. So, if you happen to have a daughter (like I do), please mentally substitute "her" for "him" and "she" for "he" as you read. And then write a very serious letter to whoever invented the English language letting them know how much easier our lives would be if pronouns weren't gender specific.





1

Getting into the Toddler Mama Groove

Surviving and Thriving in the Toddler Years



I took my one-and-a-half-year-old niece, Greta, to McDonalds a few days ago. I’m not sure if that makes me a bad Auntie (she’s asked for McNuggets for breakfast, lunch, and dinner every day since) or a cool Auntie (I let her get fries . . . shhhhh!)—but regardless, she loved it. And I did too. Except for one thing: Greta—adorable, sweet and precious Greta—is smack dab in the middle of the terrible twos.

We walked into the play area, and before I could set my tray on a table, Greta ran up to another kid who was putting on his shoes and shouted, “No! Mine!” Turns out Greta was under the impression that everything in the room belonged to her. The slide? Mine! The giant piano on the wall? Mine! The little baby that another woman was putting in a high chair? You guessed it. Mine! It was hilarious. And aside from having to remind Greta 15,324 times to be sweet, we had a wonderful time.

I told my sister-in-law the story and she wasn’t quite as amused. You see, Greta’s plunge from delectable baby to delectable-yet-exasperating toddler happened very quickly and very unexpectedly. One day, Greta was her normal sweet self—singing sleepily in her crib, eating whatever delicacy her mama put on her plate, and playing nicely with her cousins. The next day, Greta woke up a different kid. She whined. She said no. She threw her veggies on the floor. And she screamed “mine” at anyone and everyone who dared come within fifteen feet of one of her toys.

My sister-in-law is beyond frustrated—and rightfully so. I remember feeling the same way when my kids hit the terrible twos. Suddenly, all of my parenting skills were tested. All of the rules were changed. And all of my lovely walk-in-the-park moments were ruined by massive temper tantrums and whining fits. I realized I had to get my mama groove back because my sweet baby was no longer a sweet baby, and if we were being honest, I was no longer a sweet baby mama. I was a frustrated mama. And an annoyed mama. And the kind of mama who spent more time saying no to my kid than he spent saying no to everyone else. Which was a lot.

Being the parent of a one-and-a-half-year-old is overwhelming. Remember back in your new mama days when the mere thought of feeding and bathing and diapering a baby seemed overwhelming? Remember that? Well, now you’re an old pro. Being a toddler mama is a lot like that; it feels impossible at first. It seems like you’ll never be able to go to the mall—or church—again. But you’ll figure it out. And before long you’ll be able to handle a whiney meltdown while calmly filing your nails and sipping an espresso.

[[a header]]How to Get into the Toddler Mama Groove

[[b header]]1. Give yourself a break.

I’m a perfectionist, so I tend to think of my kids’ behavior as a direct reflection on me. And then, when my kid acts obnoxiously, I blame myself for being a terrible mother. But mama mantra #1345 begs to differ: you are not a terrible mother because your kid just smeared Desitin all over your mother-in-law’s antique quilt. Or hasn’t eaten anything besides peanut butter and Cheerios in nine days. Or just stole a toy from another kid at playgroup.

I’m not saying you shouldn’t deal with these issues—you should—but simply that you can’t be hard on yourself because your kid is having a bad day. Motherhood is hard, and no mom in the history of the entire world has been a perfect mama—no one. With that in mind, even in your worst mama moments, cut yourself some slack. God has used some of the hardest times I’ve had as a mom—times when I wasn’t sure if I would survive the day, much less eighteen years—to show me how to depend on Him. And in order for God to use these trials to help me learn and grow, I have to let go of them and give them to God. Only He can make our paths—and our children’s paths—straight.

[[b header]]2. Give yourself a time-out from your kid.

Sometimes you just need a time-out. I remember a day like that. My son Joey had thrown a huge fit in Target because I hadn’t bought him a chocolate milk (mean mommy, right?) and that had escalated to a hysterically whiney car ride and a full-on toy-throwing tantrum when we got home. I called my mom. She told me to bring him over to her house.

I vegged in front of the TV while she took him to play in the sandbox and read him books. He calmed down. I calmed down. And by the time I had to go home to make dinner, I was a different mama—calm, cool, collected, and totally in love with my adorable son. Whoever said that absence makes the heart grow fonder was almost certainly the mom of a one-and-a-half-year-old. I can be at my wit’s end but after just an hour away, be rushing home for a chubby-armed toddler hug.

So, on those can’t-get-through-five-minutes-without-an-issue days, don’t be afraid to call a friend, call your mother, call someone. No one can do it alone, and chances are that your mother or your sister or your best girlfriend would be happy to take your kid to McDonalds for an hour or two . . . and return them full of chicken nuggets and French fries.

[[b header]]3. Plan Your Days to Include Movement.

In the past, you may have been able to get by with lazing around all morning and spending the afternoon reading stories, but most toddlers are active and need a lot of activity. And by “need a lot of activity,” I mean that if you don’t make sure your kid runs around for at least two hours out of every day, you’re pretty much guaranteed a five-star meltdown at nap time and an eight-star fit at dinner.

So, for your sanity (and your kid’s), try to work some activity into every day. One of my favorite things to do with my kids is to go into the backyard and play soccer. They love it because it’s fun. I love it because it counts as exercise for them and for me—and because a couple of years ago, after a couple of weeks of backyard soccer practice, my husband commented on my “sexy soccer-player calves.” Let’s just say I became a regular soccer fiend after that. Even a quick walk to the park or around the neighborhood can burn some of that pent-up toddler energy, especially if you let your kid walk at her pace instead of yours. Of course, that means you won’t get anywhere quickly, but who cares? At least you’ll be able to inspect every single acorn you see along the way.

[[b header]]4. Pray. For Yourself.

I know you’re praying for your kid. Like all the time. But what about for yourself? It’s hard to be a good mama—especially when your kid isn’t exactly full of sugar and spice and everything nice. So pray for patience. Pray for wisdom. And pray that you’ll be able to reflect Christ’s love in your life even when you’re on your last nerve.

Time-out for Mom

For When You’re Praying For Yourself as a Mother



You have searched me, Lord,
and you know me.
You know when I sit and when I rise;
you perceive my thoughts from afar.
You discern my going out and my lying down;
you are familiar with all my ways.
Before a word is on my tongue
you, Lord, know it completely.
You hem me in behind and before,
and you lay your hand upon me.
Such knowledge is too wonderful for me,
too lofty for me to attain. (Psalm 139:1-6)


Lord God, it is such an incredible thing that you—the creator of heaven and earth—know me personally. You know my ever flaw, my every strength, my every thought and my every desire. And so, I don't have to tell you that I desperately love my children and want to do whatever it takes to raise them in a way that's pleasing to you. Lord, I need your help. I cannot do it alone. My human ways are weak—I grow impatient and selfish and angry. But you are so much bigger than that and I pray that you fill me with your spirit so that I, in turn, can be like you. Amen.







[[a header]]Toddler Dictionary

Just to get you started off right on your toddler mama journey, here’s a dictionary of common toddler words.

Bedtime [bed-tahym]: 1. The moment when—no matter how exhausted I’ve been all day—I suddenly feel wide-awake. 2. The moment when—no matter how much milk I left in my sippy cup at dinnertime—I suddenly feel extremely thirsty. 3. The moment when—no matter how independent I’ve felt all day—I suddenly feel extremely needy.

Binky [bing-k-ee]: (also known as: wubby, wubbalove, paci, pacifier) 1. The thing that—no matter how much my mom tries—I will refuse to go to bed without. 2. The thing that—no matter how much mom tries—I will refuse to leave the house without.

Broccoli [brok-uh-lee]: A green tree-like substance that should be immediately fed to the dog if placed on your highchair tray.

Chocolate milk [chaw-kuh-lit milk]: The only thing that will keep me from tossing a carton of eggs on the floor at the grocery store.

Crayon [krey-on, -uh n]: 1. The thing mom always puts in my hand when she wants me to be quiet at restaurants. 2. A tool for decorating walls, floors, and mom’s super-expensive antique coffee table. 3. A yummy snack.

Dog [dawg]: 1. The big thing lying on the floor that wants you to pull its tail. 2. Synonymous with “pony.”

Hair [hair]: A convenient place to wipe your hands after you’ve eaten mashed sweet potatoes or anything with maple syrup.

Mine [mahyn]: 1. Something that belongs to me. 2. Something that I want to belong to me. 3. Something that once belonged to me. 4. Something that I’ve seen before.

Park [pahrk]: 1. The place where I can run and scream as loud as I want and mom won’t tell me to stop. 2. The place where I will find unlimited amounts of gravel, rocks and dirt to roll in, get in my shoe, eat, and throw at other kids.

The Wiggles [th-uu wig-uh ls]: 1. The absolutely hilarious guys that mom—against her best judgment—introduced me to on that day that she was trying to answer sixty-two emails in one afternoon. 2. The fun concert that mom will—against her best judgment—take me to when they come to town. 3. The fun CD that mom will—against her best judgment—buy. 4. The fun CD that mom will—against her best judgment—play in the car CD player if I whine long enough.

Whine [wahyn]: 1. The noise you make when you really, really want something. 2. The noise you make when you really, really want something and mom says no. 3. The noise you make when you really, really want something and mom still keeps saying no. 4. The noise you make when you don’t remember what you wanted, but you know Mom will probably say no anyway.

Vegetable [vej-tuh-buh l]: A fun toy that mom puts on your dinner plate so you have something to throw during dinnertime.

[[a header]]Your Toddler is Fabulous (Even if She’s Fabulously Obnoxious at Times)

Even in the middle of the most hysterical, most obnoxious, most terrible one-and-a-half fit, if you look really, really close, your kid will still be pretty darn cute. That’s because your kid is a fabulously amazing (and independent) creation of God and even in the middle of her one-and-a-half-year-old glory, she is still pretty darn amazing.

The thing about the terrible twos is that they really aren’t that terrible. Sure, your kid acts terrible from time to time, but it’s because she is growing and learning and trying to figure out the world. And sometimes that figuring manifests itself as whining. And sometimes that growing manifests itself as fit-throwing. But in the middle of it all, God is working in your kid’s life, and you get the incredible privilege of getting a front-row seat to it all.

It’s easy to get frustrated with one-and-a-half-year-olds, but it’s also easy to love them for the real, honest, and utterly adorable children of God that they are. And with that in mind, let’s get on with our loving—and surviving—of the toddler years.


Wednesday, April 3, 2013

The Christian Mama's Guide to Baby's First Year: Everything You Need to Know to Survive (and Love) Your First Year as a Mom by Erin MacPherson FWCT Book Review

It is time for a FIRST Wild Card Tour book review! If you wish to join the FIRST blog alliance, just click the button. We are a group of reviewers who tour Christian books. A Wild Card post includes a brief bio of the author and a full chapter from each book toured. The reason it is called a FIRST Wild Card Tour is that you never know if the book will be fiction, non~fiction, for young, or for old...or for somewhere in between! Enjoy your free peek into the book!

You never know when I might play a wild card on you!



Today's Wild Card author is:


and the book:

Thomas Nelson (April 9, 2013)

***Special thanks to Erin MacPherson for sending me a review copy.***

ABOUT THE AUTHOR:

Erin MacPherson is a mom of three who never does anything halfway. When she discovered she was pregnant she decided to write about it—but then kept writing. A former staff writer and editor for Nickelodeon, Erin now entertains parents on her personal blog as well as through freelance magazine articles, devotionals and speaking. She wants to come beside her readers not only as a confidant and Christian sister, but also as a best girlfriend who understands what daily life is all about.

Visit the author's website.

SHORT BOOK DESCRIPTION:

The Christian Mama's Guide to Baby's First Year: An entertaining, practical guide for first-time mamas and those who need a baby refresher course.

The new mom initiation ritual involves sleepless nights, an inexplicable obsession with baby booties, and more questions than answers. This take on everything baby offers new moms the Christian girlfriend advice she needs to feel confident in her new role, including:

  • getting into the motherhood groove
  • breastfeeding advice
  • suggestions for losing the baby weight—before your baby is no longer a baby
  • time management tips that may just help you find time to do laundry—before you run out of clean underwear
  • how you can manage to be a godly mother and a good wife on less than three hours of sleep a night

Easy-to-read and relatable, this been-there-done-that guide answers these questions and more with a dose of humor an a lot of grace so that new moms can become the moms that God intended them to be during their baby's first year.


Product Details:
List Price: $15.99

Paperback: 240 pages
Publisher: Thomas Nelson (April 9, 2013)
Language: English
ISBN-10: 0849964741
ISBN-13: 978-0849964749




AND NOW...THE FIRST CHAPTER:



Welcome to Club Mom



Congratulations. You (yes, you) are an official, card-carrying member of the greatest club of all: Club Mom. And talk about an initiation ritual. You just survived months of morning sickness, forty (plus) pounds of weight gain, and seventeen hours of labor and delivery. Or, if you adopted, you trekked through seventy billion pages of paperwork, months of ups and downs and nail-biting nerves. But you did it—and you did it all for that teeny, tiny, eight-ish pound baby that you already love more than anything in the world.

I was inducted into the club two days after Christmas in 2005 when my son, Josiah, was born. And what a day that was! I was exhausted. And groggy. And in pain. But I was overjoyed. My son was literally the most amazing, gorgeous, beautiful baby that had ever been born. (Yours is too, right?) And from that moment on, I knew that Club Mom was exactly the place I wanted to be.

Isn't motherhood wonderful? I certainly don't need to tell you how fabulous your new baby is—but just for fun, let's talk about your baby for a minute. That downy-soft hair. Big need-you eyes. Chubby round cheeks. Big ole potbelly. Fat, delicious knees. Tiny, stubby toes. Amazing! And adorable! And, best of all, knit together by the Creator of the Universe Himself with a very specific and wonderful purpose in mind. No wonder you feel so awestruck every time you sneak into your baby's nursery for one last goodnight kiss.

Of course, just because you've been initiated into Club Mom doesn't mean you know what you're doing. I learned the hard way (read: through countless messy diaper blow-outs) that motherhood has a huge learning curve. And nobody becomes a pro-mom—you know, the kind who carries a fully stocked diaper bag and manages to nurse her baby to sleep while picking up groceries—without practice . . . and some good, solid, mama-to-mama advice.

That's why I'm here—to get you from the spit-up-covered, baggy-eyed mama that you are now—to the proud, camera-wielding, frosting-covered mama that you will be on your baby's first birthday. And what a journey it will be—in the next year, you'll learn how to sleep while simultaneously spoon-feeding your baby tiny pieces of cheese and videoing your baby's adorable lip smacking, how to remove yellow stains from expensive, grandma-purchased, white baby clothes, and how to puree food using nothing but a spoon and your own ingenuity.

Yes, in the next year, you're going to learn a lot. How to care for your baby. How to be a godly mother. And how to embrace the ups and downs of motherhood while maintaining some semblance of the hip person you really are. As you can imagine, that's not an easy thing to do—especially when you're running on about three (interrupted) hours of sleep a night.

But, it is doable! And you're going to do great! So welcome to the club.



A note for my particularly scrupulous readers: You may notice that all of the pronouns in this book are male. This was a decision made by my editors and I in order to keep the copy simple and consistent. It in no way means that that this book is more applicable to boys or that I intended the tips and advice in this book to be just for boys. So, if you happen to have a daughter (like I do), please mentally substitute "her" for "him" and "she" for "he" as you read. And then write a very serious letter to whoever invented the English language letting them know how much easier our lives would be if pronouns weren't gender specific.





Chapter 1

Getting Into the New Mama Groove

Surviving and Thriving as a New Mom





Being a new mom isn't as easy as it looks. I remember going to the grocery store when my son was a few months old and standing in line behind a woman who had three kids. She stood there, thumbing through a magazine with her baby sleeping peacefully in a sling while her two older (and perfectly behaved) children sat quietly in the cart and quizzed each other on phonics. Phonics. No joke! And to top it all off, the woman was wearing real pants (not sweats) and I think I spotted a smidgeon of mascara on her eyes. My jaw dropped in awe. How did she do that?

Meanwhile I stood there wearing a ratty, spit-up-covered T-shirt, my hair in a greasy pony tail, bouncing up and down in line while singing "Jesus Loves Me" to try to make my son stop screaming so that I could at least make it through the check-out line and buy milk. And I wondered how I was ever going to be able to do normal things—like go to the grocery store or (gasp!) have a social life—without enduring a total meltdown (both the baby's and mine).

Being a mom is hard. Way back in the 1960s, two psychologists named Holmes and Rah decided to study the link between major life events and stress. They did a bunch of research and interviewed a ton of people and came to the startling conclusion that major life changes—you know, like having a baby—are stressful. Um, well, duh.

Of course having a new baby is stressful! In a matter of minutes, you go from a fashionable, intelligent, and totally (okay, mostly) put-together woman to a blubbering, still-trying-to-lose-the-baby-weight mother who is exhausted, overwhelmed, and can't figure out how to use the nasal aspirator. It's a huge life change—and most mamas (like me!) need some time to get the hang of it.

But you’ll get there. Okay, so chances are you’ll probably never stand in line at the grocery store while your kid discusses the intricacies of phonics, but you’ll certainly get to the point where you can manage to put on real pants and buy milk without feeling like a bumbling fool. I promise.



How to Get Into the New Mom Groove

1. Give yourself a break. Remember that seemingly perfect mom I told you about earlier in the chapter? The one who managed to wear pants and mascara while wrangling three kids? Well, fabulous as she is, you have to remember that she has three kids . . . which means she's had a lot of practice. I'm willing to bet that there was a point in time when she also stood in the grocery store with a screaming baby in her arms while covered in spit-up from head to toe.

You're not going to have the mom thing down pat right away—or ever. Case in point: We flew from Texas to Oregon right around my son's first birthday. With a full year's experience of being a mom under my belt, I had everything under control. Or so I thought. Right after we got on the plane, I realized that my son had a dirty diaper—and, of course, in the process of trying to change it on the cramped plane, I managed to completely soil his pants, his shirt ,and his sweater. I reached for the diaper bag—only to realize that I had checked it. I had nothing. Well, nothing except for a naked baby on an airplane in December.

Every mom has a story like that—well, maybe not exactly like that, but I'm pretty sure every mom forgets to bring a change of clothes once or twice. And when things happen that make us look inexperienced or clueless or just plain frazzled, we have to take it in stride. Realize we're doing the best we can. And confidently ask everyone around us if we can please borrow a diaper.



2. Give yourself a break from baby. You heard me. If you’re going to stay sane, you need to pry yourself away from your little schnookums every once in awhile. I’m not telling you to go away on a four-week African safari, but it certainly wouldn’t hurt you to sneak out of the room while your baby is sleeping and take a shower. Or, if you’re feeling really brave, you could leave your baby with your mom and go out to the Tastee Freez with your husband.

The point is that as wonderful as your baby is, you need some time to be you. And seeing as how you weren't always a brand-new mom with a brand-new baby attached to your hip, it's good for you to pry that baby off of your hip every once in awhile and go back to being your fabulous self—give or take ten to fifteen pounds.

When my son was a few weeks old, my husband suggested (okay, demanded) that I leave the baby with him and go to the mall with my sister. I whined and moaned and worried that something would happen. But I eventually left. And we had a great time. We were only gone an hour or two (I was breast-feeding) but I remember feeling so liberated walking around carrying just my purse. I felt like a real person again!



3. Pace yourself. When you have a new baby in tow, there is no way you can do all the things you used to do back in the day. That’s fine. It’s okay that the house only gets vacuumed when your mother-in-law comes or that an entire day’s worth of activities constitutes a run to Target to buy diapers. Yes, you headed up the world committee on organic gardening while holding down a full-time job and a seventy-hour-per-week volunteer ministry in your pre-baby days, but you just aren't going to be able to do that now that you have kids. And that's okay.

The good news is that you'll get back into your do-everything-and-volunteer-at-the-soup-kitchen-to-boot groove soon enough. I remember feeling so incompetent when my son was a newborn. I felt like nothing got accomplished at my house. Ever. But you know what? My son didn't stay a newborn and I didn't stay a newborn mom forever. Now I head the snack committee for my son's football league and organize the class picnic and write the newsletter for my MOPS group. And some days, I kind of miss those nostalgic new mom days when my only daily responsibility was making sure my son got fed.



4. Let your friends help. It takes a whole village—or at least an entire extended family and a church group—to raise a child. And yet so many young mamas try to do it alone. I remember being nervous when my friends offered to set up a CareCalendar (www.carecalendar.org) to bring me meals after my baby was born. I didn't want them to think I wasn't capable—and I certainly didn't want them to feel like they had to wait on me. Of course they didn't feel that way at all. They wanted to help—just like I do when my friends have babies.

Here's the way I look at it: when you have a brand-new baby and are recovering from what was possibly a very traumatic labor, you need all the help you can get. So accept whatever your friends and family offer you gratefully—and make a mental note to do the same when they need you. And, the truth is, unless you're still asking your friends to make you dinner and clean your house when your baby is ten months old, no one will feel like they're waiting on you. They love you. They want to bless you. And you'd do the same for them in a heartbeat.



5. Try to maintain a sense of normalcy. Yes, your house is messy. Yes, your clothes don’t fit. Yes, you feel like a completely different person than you were before your baby was born. But that doesn’t mean everything has to change. Try to do one thing every day that the “old” you would’ve done—whether it’s obsessively de-cluttering the kitchen counter or simply putting on a coat of mascara.

When my son was a new baby, I made myself a little "get yourself together" schedule. Okay, I didn't call it that, but everyday I "scheduled" one household task or errand or job to do so that I felt like I had responsibilities outside of slouching on the couch with my boob in my son's mouth while watching TLC. Some of my jobs were easy—like reading the new issue of Parenting from cover to cover. Others were a bit more difficult, like trying to figure out how to make the wipe-warmer actually keep wipes warm.



Time-out for Mom

For When You’re Just Getting Into the Swing of The New Mom Thing



“He tends his flock like a shepherd: He gathers the lambs in his arms and carries them close to his heart; he gently leads those that have young.” (Isaiah 40:1)



Father God, What a blessing my new baby is. There is nothing you could've given me that is more wonderful, more beautiful and more telling of your love. Thank you. And Lord, while my life has totally changed, thank you for dealing gently with me and showering me with your grace when I need it most. Lead me, Lord God, so that I can raise this precious baby in a way that guides him to Your kingdom. Amen.



Ways You've Changed Since Becoming a Mom

The old you: Wore cute, belly-hugging tops and styled your hair every single day without fail.
The new you: Has been wearing the same pajamas now for a week. (To your defense, they're really, really cute pajamas.)
The old you: Never missed an episode of Downton Abbey.
The new you: Never misses an episode of the Late, Late Show. Ever. (What else are you supposed to do when Lil’ Mr. Hungrypants is always wanting to eat at one am?)
The old you: Knew how to make a mean grilled cheese sandwich.
The new you: Has grilled cheese sandwiches for dinner. Three times every week.
The old you: Skipped out on the super-long and boring HOA meeting because it was super-long and boring.
The new you: Wishes you could go to the super-long and boring HOA meeting (at least it'd get you out of the house) but can't because it’s during your baby’s nap time.
The old you: Never had time to lunch with your girlfriends.
The new you: Lets your baby nap in the infant seat while you have lunch with your girlfriends who you haven’t seen for weeks.
The old you: Felt guilty if you went to bed without doing the dinner dishes.
The new you: Spends the entire day watching your sweet baby sleep—and is completely okay with the fact that the same cereal bowl has been sitting in the sink for a week.


Christian Mama Style

True story: When I told my friend that I was writing a Christian pregnancy guide, she said, "Every pregnant mom experiences the same morning sickness and the same weight gain. So why would I need a special pregnancy guide just for Christian moms? Seems like any old pregnancy guide would say the exact same things."

And she's right—sort of. Yes, every mom, Christian or not, shares similar experiences as she learns to navigate being a parent. Every mom feels that intense I-will-never-be-able-to-get-over-how-amazing-you-are feeling while simultaneously freaking out about the fact that they are entirely and utterly responsible for the tiny life in their arms. Us mama bears are fiercely protective of our babies—both physically and emotionally—and we'll do anything and everything we can to make sure our babies are safe, healthy, and happy. It's human nature.

But what makes Christian moms different is that Christian moms also care deeply about our family’s relationship with Jesus along the way. We want to grow closer to Jesus in this journey of parenthood and we want our kids to grow up to love Him with all of their hearts, their souls, and their minds. And in the meantime we also want to teach our kids character, help them to grow rock-solid faiths, sow in them a joyful hope in Jesus, and help them to realize that while they are flawed human beings, they serve a God who is perfect yet forgiving and loving yet powerful. A tall order. But, before you really start to freak out (I know the very thought of that makes my mind start to whir with thoughts of my own unworthiness), I want to remind you that it is God who can and will work in your kid's lives. It is God who knit them together with a perfect plan in mind for their lives. And it is God who will work to help that plan come into fruition. Isn't that a relief?

Of course, we as parents aren't totally off the hook. God calls us to love and nurture our children in the fear and admonition of the Lord. And that starts from day one. Yes, that's right. You can start teaching your baby about Jesus from the day he or she is born. Here are a few easy ways to do just that.



Pray. It's probably a given that most Christian moms pray for their kids. But, I also know what it's like to be in that crazy newborn phase where there's never enough time for basics like sleeping or showering. And when I was in that phase, prayer time often got relegated to the back burner. I want to encourage you to get in the habit of praying for your kids—and praying often. One way I've found to be purposeful about prayer is to use Scripture to pray for your kids. (The book Praying God's Word for Your Life by Kathi Lipp has some great ideas on how to do this.) I've spent the last six months reading the book of Ephesians and then using the words in that scripture to pray for my three kids. It's been a powerful experience where God has revealed a lot to me about His plan for them.
Adjust your expectations. One thing I had to learn as a new mom was that my time with Jesus was just different than before I had kids. In my pre-kid days, I would often set aside extended periods of time every morning to pray and read my Bible. If I needed more time with God, I could just set my alarm a little earlier. But I think any mom will tell you that a baby is no match for an alarm clock and that it's almost a guarantee that if you set an alarm for six am, your baby will wake up at ten to six. Because of this, I had to learn to take mini-prayer breaks throughout the day as well as find alternative times (like during my baby's nap) to read my Bible.
Sing songs. I love the song "Change My Heart, Oh God," so when my daughter was tiny, I would sit in my rocker, snuggle her against me, and sing that song over and over. For months and months, that's how she fell asleep. And even now, more than four years later, she still sings that song, loudly and clearly, whenever she's down or upset. It's become a comfort to her.
Set an example. Get into the habit of spending thirty minutes each morning—at a time when your baby can see you and hear you—reading your Bible and praying. Sure, a two-month-old isn't going to know what's going on, but as your baby grows and recognizes that Mommy spends time every day in the same spot, praying to God, he or she might be inspired to do the same.
Expose them to the Bible. I get that busting out a King James Version with a six-month-old will probably only fly for fourteen seconds, but try giving your kids access to the Bible in age-appropriate chunks. Point out a rainbow in the sky and talk about the story of Noah's ark. Read short Bible stories from a children's Bible. Talk about how God created everything we see in the world. As your baby grows, these simple conversations will be woven in with experiences to become part of his spiritual legacy.


Being a Mom Rocks!

The truth is that being a mom is the best thing ever—regardless of how many diapers you’ve changed or how many times your baby woke you up last night. Your baby is pretty much the most amazing thing that has happened to you. And, aside from the fact that your life is a teensy bit nuttier than it's ever been before, your life is also so much sweeter. Nothing beats baby smiles, melodic gurgles. and chubby baby knees. Nothing.

Plus, when you have a new baby, you feel like you're a rock star. Everywhere you go, people will point and ooh and ahh and try to get a glimpse underneath the baby blanket. People will hold doors open for your baby stroller and give you advice on elevators. People will strike up conversations with you, wistfully thinking about the days that their now-thirty-year-olds were that small. And everyone—and I mean everyone—will marvel at how strong/smart/alert/quiet/sweet your baby is.

Even when things start to feel tough—like when your baby wakes you up seventeen times in the middle of the night and you've gone through an entire package of diapers in twenty-four hours—there's nothing that will ever damper the feeling you have for that baby in your arms. Nothing. In my new mom days, I was completely in awe of my son and the love I felt for him.

Experiencing that kind of love showed me a lot about the love God has for us. Of course, we could never love like He does, but just the experience of being a mom and loving a child made me overwhelmingly grateful. In John 3:1, the bible tell us to " For example, 1 John 3:1: “See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are!” God loves me more than I could ever comprehend—yet holding my son for the first time, I got a glimpse of it. What an amazing feeling.

Anyway, now that you have your mama groove, it's time to talk about the nitty-gritty of newborn parenting. How do you change your baby's diaper without getting pee all over yourself? How do you know when his cries are real or when he's just working out a secret plan to keep you awake all night long? And how in the world do you get those crazy (but adorable) button-up jumpsuits buttoned when your baby is squirming and wiggling? Let's find out.